When we were in Guernsey the other day, mum started chatting about the houses that we have lived in over the years. She began with their first home, the one she and dad lived in when they were first married. Then the house that they built together with a States of Guernsey loan and where we grew up as a young family. The middle stages of our family life together came next at our house near the centre of the island; more convenient for dad to get to and from work and giving him more time at home. From there the move was to a brand new build on a small Clos, and from that home there was the one to where mum now lives, overlooking Belle Grève Bay, the islands and the White Rock where dad was a docker for much of his working life.
We then went back over the list, and the times that we spent at each. I noticed that these next memories were significantly around the gardens of each home.
The small garden in their first home, surrounded by vibrant farmland and in an area where and at a time when many still grew their own potatoes, some root veg and brassicas. Then at our next home, where I first came into being, was the beautiful lawn and vegetable garden that mum and dad created; a peaceful garden nourished by seaweed and which has formed the backdrop of photos of so many guests that stayed at mum and dad's B&B. From here was a move closer to dad's work, and for me my favourite garden of the homes in which we lived; one which was bordered on two sides by a growing bamboo fence line that seemed to stretch to the heavens and was as deep as any deep hedge can be. The dozen chickens would roam under the arching laburnum in their own vast chicken-wired homestead. We would grow in the greenhouse - tomatoes, melons and cucumbers - and Freddy the tortoise would hibernate in here overwinter, under the bench in a hay-stuffed box. My older brother kept pigeons in his pigeon hut; all fanciful feathers and courteous cooing. And then there was the seemingly vast area of orchard with eating apples, cooking apples, pears and a plum tree; trees ripe for climbing, pruning, fruiting and harvesting. Across the path was the ever so productive vegetable garden that dad would find his spare time in, and I would go and help him and learn and feel love. The leisure area of the garden was another large space sandwiched between here and the back of the house. A small-scale formal garden of canna lilies, fuchsia, hydrangea and strawberries sat alongside the vast patio where people would smile and parties would happen and the sun would forever shine. I guess these were very happy years; a family of five in full swing.
Moving on and downsizing, with the family with heartache doing the same, the gardens that mum and dad created around our Grande Rocque home were truly amazing, particularly considering there was nothing there to start with and that the base soil was significantly sand. There were wonderful borders edged with pink and blue granite and the bowling green lawns that dad created. These bowling green lawns were truly bare feet worthy; springy and soft, and lush and life-enhancing. I remember dad always having a little pocket knife with him; walking across the vibrant green lawn he would dip down and dig out a dandelion or daisy and they would get thrown on the compost heap. You see, dad wanted a pristine lawn, and that's exactly what his groundsmanship delivered. Then the palm trees went in, Cordeline Australis and a very spiky yucca that we smuggled back from Ibiza... sshhhh, don't tell! Mum would tend her roses and all the colour of the garden and the two of them would spend hours just being; the two of them in sync.
When it got to the stage where the garden and the painting of the house was really getting too much for them both, they decided to move to where mum lives now. A garden, of course, was essential, and if it be in many pots then that would do quite well.
Mum and dad chose an apartment on the ground floor where they have spent many countless hours sitting on the patio taking in the sun and the sea and the salty air. At one point there were 84 pots of varying shapes and sizes containing flowers of various sorts, though the ones that have always taken mum's fancy are Arum lilies, hydrangeas, and geraniums and pelargoniums. On any drive around the island we would pass a house that used to sell these colourful scented plants on the roadside, it was just around from Port Soif. Whatever variety they had, whether crinkle leaf or flat or variegated, and whatever colour, whether white or pink or crimson or purple, these were always called Port Soif plants - mum's Port Soif plants. Many of them still flourish now and are topped up with other plants each year, all from cuttings mum so studiously loves taking. As it's now winter, and all in the pots is pretty sparse apart from a few geraniums still holding on to a scrambling of flowers, we left mum with 200 blue LED lights rambling through the dead and dying branches of the plants in the pots. Many of these plants will be back out next year, including the geraniums, and particularly the hydrangeas with their resplendent vibrant mop heads replacing the dancing feathery dried pom pom heads which are on view today. In the meantime, it will be the bright blue gems of LED that will dance in the breeze and please the eye.
It was in this 15 or 20 minutes of chatter, whilst Richard had a shower, that it brought me back to the fact that I know so well... Gardens in all their many guises are a haven for the body and a haven for the soul.
We are beginning to learn of and understand the benefits of gardening and gardens, and how the act of gardening and the time of spending time in green open spaces and gardens, alone and with others, is so beneficial to our mental and physical health. What dawned on me as mum and I sat chatting about the plants, the layout, the weather, and the times of fun that had been had in all these homes was that the memories of gardens, outdoor spaces and wonderful places nourishes and can live with us forever. It is through these moments of memory that we roll back in time and space. It is in these moments of memory that we literally do travel in time.
I guess these times and these memories are where the seeds for The Guernsey Gardener in London were sown. And now I can share these moments with others, if they so wish.
A Guernsey Gardener in London, Day 18
17/12/2019 06:18:05 pm
A delightful account of the genesis of the Guernsey Gardener. I love the description of the 'nourishing effect' of a garden.
18/12/2019 10:54:36 am
Indeed Stephen, as you know gardens can be incredibly nourishing - for the heart and for the soul. As I am sure you have found with Gerald Lee PP. 😊
17/12/2019 06:45:08 pm
Enchanting..your writing reminds me of a series I just love to read and reread..Thrush Green by Miss Read country life in England after War2..enchanting characters who all had gardens ..your Mom Dad and family could have got right in hard working and lovers of the soil. Paul Thank You for letting me into your world💞
18/12/2019 10:59:53 am
I will have to look that series up Anna as I don't know it. As ever, so pleased you find these mutterings engaging. 😊
17/12/2019 09:29:24 pm
Wonderful memories indeed Paul..lovely, lovely read..
18/12/2019 10:56:21 am
Thank you Stephen. 😊
17/12/2019 10:49:26 pm
Oh Paul what a journey through time I felt like was viewing them
18/12/2019 10:56:52 am
19/12/2019 07:24:24 am
I think you shared some beautiful memories, it seems as if you have a very close connection still with Guernsey and the life you had there. Those years and the experiences they brought clearly still have a strong influence on how you life your life now. Thankyou for such a thoughtful post.
20/12/2019 08:23:05 am
Izzy. It is a small island, and I do love it. It would be great to live back there, though to have the house and the grounds for growing that we would want would mean that both Richard and I would be back in full-time employment; which is not where we want to be. In life, as we get older, we have to try and choose how we live our lives and even though Guernsey would be fab it just wouldn't work for us at this time. 😊
20/12/2019 01:22:33 am
Beautiful stories Paul. Thank you so much for sharing such heartfelt and touching memories with us. Your writing is very beautiful to read, it brings a smile to my face every time. :-)
20/12/2019 08:24:09 am
Donna, many, many thanks. I am genuinely glad that my writing resonates with you. 🤗
29/12/2019 03:40:12 pm
Thank you for sharing this. I'm reminded of all the times I've had to say goodbye to a garden I've tended and moved on to a new home and begun a garden again. 🌱🐝💕
2/1/2020 09:14:49 am
It's interesting we remember the gardens. I certainly can't remember in any details my bedrooms in the family homes, apart from where the bed, window, wardrobe and desk were positioned, Yet I can remember the look, smell, feel and glory of all the gardens. 🤔
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